It's a matter of pride...
There's also the rule, never get between a momma bear and her cub. She'll rip you to shreds to get to her young ones. Again, she's the momma, she's supposed to.
So, are human mommas any less protective of their little ones? I don't think so, I just think we've grown enough to know that ripping someone to shreds could get us in a bit of hot water.
Knowing all this, you would think that my StupidX would know that if he messes with my babies, I'm rip him up. His latest dazzling show of parental prowess? Tell your 16 year old that you have no idea why they keep talking about and planning on going to college. She'll never get there, and will spend the rest of her life flipping burgers at McDonald's. Tell her that you don't know why she just spent 2 weeks wasting her time doing an internship since it won't matter anyway cause she won't ever get to college. Explain to me why a parent, who claims to love their children as much he says he does would do this?
So, after about 45 mins of damage control, she left me feeling a little better. I gave her the pep talk about how much I'm happy with what she's doing and where she wants to go with her life. She seems to have it pretty much together. I explained to her that I really don't think he wants her to fail. He really doesn't want to see her stuck in the same town we live in now for ever... flipping burgers. I also told her that if anything, she needs to make sure that she gets her butt out there and does the best she can, just to prove him wrong.
Another thing she told me was that he doesn't say these things to the 13 year old. So I asked her, what does he say when she tells him her thoughts on where she wants to go to college and what she wants to be? She told me that she's never said anything to him because she doesn't want the same reaction that Kay got. She doesn't want him to say those mean things to her. Since that conversation, she told StupidX her college choice and her thoughts on a career path. She said he just looked at her, asked her why she wanted to do that and walked away. Gotta love the open flowing support he gives his kids.
So, to sum this up, Momma lions will hide their cubs to keep them from harm. Momma bears will rip you to pieces if they think you're gonna hurt their babies. This Momma? She's gonna have to go all Lions and Tigers and Bears on someone if he doesn't stop hurting my babies. They are smart, they are funny, they are well rounded and can do whatever they want. If you get in their way, I will take you out.