The Mean Mom

Just ask my 7 year old, he'll tell you. Don't believe him? Ask my 14 year old, if she still leaves you in doubt, my 17 year old can confirm it too.

February 04, 2006

Yet another weekend...

and I don't think I'll accomplish much. Today we went to voluteer at the church's pantry. It's odd, being there and seeing the people that come in. There was a time, not too long ago, that I might have been in the position to be there. When I separated from my x, I was determined to prove that I could make it on my own, and that nothing would change. It might have appeared that way, but it did... there were many times when we would have pbj and mac & cheese for dinner. I didn't want anyone to doubt my decision to ask my then spouse to leave. I didn't want anyone to know that I was struggling. I paid my bills, most of them almost on time, kept the kids fed, and put on the happy face... My mom says that she knew I was struggling, I don't think she knew how much though. She knew that I didn't have any extra money, but I don't think she knew how tight it really was.

It's scary to think how close I was to having to ask for help. Don't get me wrong, there is nothing wrong with asking for help. I just didn't want to do it. I remember the elementary school counselor asking me if I needed help around the holidays... I of course told her no. That Christmas, the kids got very little. Not much of what was on their list was under the tree that year.

They knew what was going on, and they knew the situation, and I hate that they had to know. I wish they never had to know. I wish that they never needed to know that anything was different. I guess when their dad leaves, and we are eating Mac&Cheese with tuna or hotdogs almost every night, there isn't any way to hide it from them. About that time, my mom started having us for dinner every night. We ate there almost everynight for 3 years. She let me believe that it was easier than picking up the kids and going home to cook dinner, and I let her believe that we were doing it so that she could feel like she was helping. She pretty much saved us.

Now, whenever I can help someone who might be where I was, I do. I know how scary it is to live day to day... to not know where your next dinner will come from, or what you might eat. To want more than anything to keep your secret. Guess it's not a secret anymore... That's why I volunteer at the food pantry. I know what it's like. I've almost been there.

Funny... 8 shots of vodka will make you able to talk about anything... please excuse any typos... Thanks.

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  • At 9:06 PM, February 05, 2006, Blogger LoisLane said…

    Hugs! Been there. I can remember sitting and wondering how I was going to buy groceries for three people for the week with $20.

    But you are strong, and you made it, and you and the kids are better for the experience I think. :)


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